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What do I do if one of my friends has been sexually assaulted?

No one expects you to be a trained rape counselor, but there are things you can do to help your friend to cope and to find help. Whether the assault occurred recently or a long time ago, it is helpful if you can:

  • Believe them
  • Maintain a calm manner
  • Listen without interrupting
  • Allow for tears and expression of feelings
  • Convey genuine concern
  • Provide accurate information
  • Allow them to make his/her own choices
  • Set judgements aside
  • Maintain confidentiality
  • Let them know that it's not their fault (You cannot say this enough!)
  • Let them know that there are people who can help and that they don't have to go through this alone
  • Refer your friend to help and encourage them to go. They trust you, which is why they are talking to you. You can use that influence to help them reach out for help


Will my parents be told?